Post by ludicrouslouisa on Jul 13, 2008 11:32:05 GMT
WTF AM I GOING TO DO! I'M GOING TO HAVE TO RUN AWAY TO ICELAND OR WELLINGTON OR MUNSTER OR BANFF FOREVER! AND ERASE MY IDENTITY! AND BECOME PAUL! JUST SO I CAN ESCAPE HER!
(those were just a few random places I came up with.)
Wellll...
long story short. It all started about last year...most of my friends had left to go to other schools...and I only had a few friends left at the school. I was not off on a good start. One was depressed (she eventually moved to another school), one was angry, and one was...well, naive, co-dependent and all round crazy.
it is this third one I am referring to.
Well, you all know I'm gay, blah blah blah. My friend developed an infatuation with a particular girl, and knowing how this feels, and the fact that no one was there to help ME when it happened to me when I was 11, I decided that I would give her advice, and support and all that. I knew I'd feel bad if I didn't.
Sooo....over this period of time she was confiding in me absolutely, because I understood her situation. That was alllll very well. Notably, she considered me a better friend after that incident.
So, that was OK. Then..the year after. I am now her FRIEND. Like..capital letters. That wall has been knocked down. And steadily throughout the year, she becomes more creepy and more obsessed in me. She won't let me be alone (I'm an introvert), she babbles at me constantly, follows me around online (I had to create a new email address and not tell her about it), she got incredibly offended when I ignored her because I was sick and busy and did all this crazy shit like send abusive messages to my BROTHER (who she had met TWICE!)....
It was all or nothing. We were either..FRIENDS with no boundaries, seeing each other every minute of the day and confiding in EVERY secret
or we were not friends at all.
There was no in between.
I AM GOING CRAZY!
She won't leave me and my brother alone!
She has this crazy insanity mother who assumes all this shit about us (like that I am a butch lesbian who isn't actually a lesbian who is corrupting her daughter who is a vegetarian and we wouldn't give anyone who visited us any food, and that my brother was a strange, disturbing evil computer nerd...) and her mother tells her all sorts of awful corrupting stuff like that she didn't deserve to be born (wtf? WHAT KIND OF MOTHER IS THIS? no wonder my friend is crazy.)
My friend is very naive, can't figure things out for herself, co-dependent, jumps from bipolar extremes of hyper to suicidal (says she'll commit suicide when her mother dies - what kind of relationship IS that?)
Well..I can't be her counsellor..I can't solve her problems and I exhausted myself trying!
And she's bothering my poor brother too. He took part in a sociology survey she did, and also offered to fix her computer (running vista like a bitch - he's very good with computers, he's a web developer, and a nice guy )
So what does she do? GO ALL OVER HIM TOO! As in like..chatting to him, pouring out all this crap to him, abusing me through him when she's cross with me, TEXTING HIM ON HIS iPHONE WHEN NO ONE KNEW THE NUMBER (we STILL can't figure out how she got it...)
I am actually rather disturbed..and annoyed. Yeah, she's not a bad person, just really irritating, but the obsession she has with us is actually very very worrying. I would like some sort of distance there? You know?
Short of moving to another country, what the hell am I supposed to do about my creepy stalker friend?
(sorry this post is really really long.)
(those were just a few random places I came up with.)
Wellll...
long story short. It all started about last year...most of my friends had left to go to other schools...and I only had a few friends left at the school. I was not off on a good start. One was depressed (she eventually moved to another school), one was angry, and one was...well, naive, co-dependent and all round crazy.
it is this third one I am referring to.
Well, you all know I'm gay, blah blah blah. My friend developed an infatuation with a particular girl, and knowing how this feels, and the fact that no one was there to help ME when it happened to me when I was 11, I decided that I would give her advice, and support and all that. I knew I'd feel bad if I didn't.
Sooo....over this period of time she was confiding in me absolutely, because I understood her situation. That was alllll very well. Notably, she considered me a better friend after that incident.
So, that was OK. Then..the year after. I am now her FRIEND. Like..capital letters. That wall has been knocked down. And steadily throughout the year, she becomes more creepy and more obsessed in me. She won't let me be alone (I'm an introvert), she babbles at me constantly, follows me around online (I had to create a new email address and not tell her about it), she got incredibly offended when I ignored her because I was sick and busy and did all this crazy shit like send abusive messages to my BROTHER (who she had met TWICE!)....
It was all or nothing. We were either..FRIENDS with no boundaries, seeing each other every minute of the day and confiding in EVERY secret
or we were not friends at all.
There was no in between.
I AM GOING CRAZY!
She won't leave me and my brother alone!
She has this crazy insanity mother who assumes all this shit about us (like that I am a butch lesbian who isn't actually a lesbian who is corrupting her daughter who is a vegetarian and we wouldn't give anyone who visited us any food, and that my brother was a strange, disturbing evil computer nerd...) and her mother tells her all sorts of awful corrupting stuff like that she didn't deserve to be born (wtf? WHAT KIND OF MOTHER IS THIS? no wonder my friend is crazy.)
My friend is very naive, can't figure things out for herself, co-dependent, jumps from bipolar extremes of hyper to suicidal (says she'll commit suicide when her mother dies - what kind of relationship IS that?)
Well..I can't be her counsellor..I can't solve her problems and I exhausted myself trying!
And she's bothering my poor brother too. He took part in a sociology survey she did, and also offered to fix her computer (running vista like a bitch - he's very good with computers, he's a web developer, and a nice guy )
So what does she do? GO ALL OVER HIM TOO! As in like..chatting to him, pouring out all this crap to him, abusing me through him when she's cross with me, TEXTING HIM ON HIS iPHONE WHEN NO ONE KNEW THE NUMBER (we STILL can't figure out how she got it...)
I am actually rather disturbed..and annoyed. Yeah, she's not a bad person, just really irritating, but the obsession she has with us is actually very very worrying. I would like some sort of distance there? You know?
Short of moving to another country, what the hell am I supposed to do about my creepy stalker friend?
(sorry this post is really really long.)