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Post by Xen on Jan 13, 2008 23:48:07 GMT
i am fed up recently of people who used to be my mates treating me like i am some kind of social outcast just because im not into the EMO stuff they are into or the popular bands they like. one of them even has the ordasity to make me feel like a shit guitar player just cause i dont know how to play the lastest enter shakari track or the newest used song, i dont those bands so im not gonna learn to play that sort of stuff we used to be really good mates but now that he's learning multiple instruments and is mister popular with everyone im made to feel like an outcast and just something for him to take the piss out of. and i have just had enough of it .
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Post by Katie on Jan 14, 2008 10:22:25 GMT
*hugs*
They are shallow shallow people who think they can drag around people at thier will. Don't take it, i know it may be hard to tear yourself away from people who you think of friends but it needs to be done. I know the feeling of being a social outcast kind of thing, you think its going to get better and it won't. Ignore these people, see what happens. How long has this been going on?
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Post by bigospedros on Jan 14, 2008 11:00:38 GMT
all I can say is rise above it, if you can.
I've never been part of the in crowd, never liked what everyone else liked or dressed like everyone else does but I don't really care. I am quite happy to stick to my guns and like what I like and if other people can't get that, then perhaps I shouldn't be hanging around with them.
If they give you abuse for you being you then you just have to ignore it or give him some home truths of "take me as I am or we can't be friends". Good friends should be able to recognise that everyone's different and recognise that you can't always like the same things and respect each others opinions and likes / dislikes.
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Post by James the BLF on Jan 14, 2008 20:42:21 GMT
Yeah i get how you feel - some people are just arseholes who have a compulsive need to follow the crowd - I don't follow anyone elses music taste and if they try and act like that I'd just ignore it - theres no point in trying to argue with them and if they act like that then they cannot be true friends, as true friends don't make judgements for things like that!
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Post by Katie on Jan 15, 2008 8:47:40 GMT
Funnily enough, there was a discussion about this sort of thing on the radio this morning. Their solution seemed to be is to stay with those who are loyal, who treat you the same way you treat them and ditch those who don't. Sounds simple but it will be hard i know.
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Post by Xen on Jan 20, 2008 6:13:35 GMT
well this has been going for a few months i thought i was being silly to start with that maybe i was just being paranoid but it just got worse i snapped a couple of times over comments he made to me and everyone suddenly looked at me as if i was in the wrong. Luckly im now sticky to the few mates who are on my wave length and who dont care about what trends are going and who are as open minded as me which btw i can count them on one hand. Hell one of them is a guitar teacher who got me into a lot of excellent rock music and i have now turned him into a feeder fan.
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Post by Ogalosh on Jan 20, 2008 21:07:36 GMT
I know what your talking about Xen. My own cusion (who i thought was my friend) broke into my house when me and my family were gone for a week and had a huge party with drugs and alot of people. He is such a fucking idiot but i wont go into all that. All i can say is just ignore those kinds of people becuase thier not really your friends just idoits trying to be cool or something. ... there are better things out there.
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